Thursday, October 7, 2010

Pick Your Battles

I was just thinking about the phrase we hear that "trials are often a blessing in disguise." I'm not sure if it's a blessing per se, but often trials are the best learning experiences we'll ever have. I don't think I was blessed to have stitches on my forehead, but it taught me not to pull a bungi- chord off of something when it's extremely tight. I don't think I was blessed to get in mean fights with my friends and family, but it taught me to forgive and speak kindly.
Trials come in all sorts of styles and sizes. Some are small and barely even phase us. But many are huge and change the entire course of our life.
Because I've been "blessed" with some big and small trials in life, I'm learning that some things are not worth getting upset over. For example, married life- it's a huge adjustment for most people. However, I'm continually learning that sometimes I just need to remind myself that it's not as big of a deal as I'm making it seem. My sister has always gave me wise advice of "Pick your battles." Sometimes there are things not worth fighting over.
Apologize. And one thing to remember- IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO APOLOGIZES FIRST. The imortant thing is that there are sincere apologies being said from both of you and hurt feelings are being healed.
Life is what you make it. Choose to have a positive attitude and pick your battles. Many heart-aches can be avoided by forgiving and moving on.